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50 Quotes to Celebrate Recovery

Recovery Month 2017 is coming to an end. It is important to continually acknowledge those in recovery as recovery happens every day. If you are struggling, know that there is hope for you and your family through treatment. 

Here are 50 quotes collected by Cathy Taughinbaugh to celebrate recovery!

1) “We’re all looking at the people around us, the people who have gone before us who have succeeded in recovery and have long-term sobriety and they are an illustration for us of how good it can be.” ~ Scott Stevens

2) “We can and we must do better as prolonged recovery is now an achievable result of comprehensive addiction treatment.” ~ Stephen Pasierb

3)  “The CRAFT approach, developed by Bob Meyers at U of New Mexico, is one set of important tools that DO work, and it feels great to see families using these strategies and getting results, feeling hopeful again, feeling empowered, getting support, learning to trust themselves again, getting their lives and the lives of their children back.” ~ Jeff Foote, PhD

4) “Recovery is all about using our power to change our beliefs that are based on faulty data.” ~ Kevin McCormack

5) “Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work: you don’t give up.” ~ Anne Lamott

6) “I know, despite all my best efforts and deepest desires, that I can’t guarantee a happy, healthy, and successful path for my children; still, once in a while, I feel the tide touching my toes.” ~ D’Anne Burwell

7) “There is a place in this movement for everybody, whether you just want to share your story at a school, share your story with your neighbor or you want to speak to your legislator about how important supporting addiction recovery is for our communities.” ~ Greg Williams

8) “Positive thoughts and prayer have been the best means available, since the beginning of time, to transform darkness to light.” ~ Cate Stevens

9) “When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing one of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to FLY. ~Patric Overton

10) “Get in touch with their own intuition. The answers are inside if we have a process to be introspective.” ~ Dr. Herby Bell

11) Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future. ~ Deepak Chopra

12) “In recovery, your shape changes. In order for you to fit back into the rest of the puzzle, your life, the other pieces of the puzzle must also change their shapes to accommodate you.” ~ Augusten Burroughs

13) “We’re saying that the way people sustain ongoing, long-term change is through building a better life in ways that matter to them as individuals.” ~ Nicole Kosanke, PhD

14)  “Our family is affected by addiction. I will accept it, find strength in God and my recovering community, and go forward.” ~ Libby Cataldi

15) “People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within.”  ~ Ramona L. Anderson

16) “I sought treatment and began the process of getting myself healthy and in return could make healthier decisions concerning my child. Self-care is critical and must not be neglected.” ~ Sharon LeGore

17) “The hopeful part about that is when you do have that help, you will feel better. It still doesn’t make this easy. Nothing makes this easy, but you can make better decisions.” ~ David Sheff

18) “We must learn to be still in order to navigate the fertile soil awaiting us.” ~ Holli Kenley

19) “Yoga is a path that leads to true healing, happiness, and a successful thriving life.” ~ Tommy Rosen

20) “No matter how dark the moment, love and hope are always possible.” ~ George Chakiris

21) Given love and opportunity, every child and adult can recover. All who know this and have the capacity to help others should assist as they can. ~Dallin H. Oaks

22) “Relax. Breathe. It takes time, but there is a great joy to be had in moments of every day. Just remember, you’re learning new steps, a new dance.” ~ Lisa Frederiksen

23) “We honor ourselves when we speak out for recovery. We show the world that recovery matters because it brings hope and peace into the lives of individuals and their loved ones.” ~ Beth Wilson

24) “It is often in the darkest skies that we see the brightest stars.”  ~ Richard Evans

25) “There are multiple pathways to addiction recovery and ALL are cause for celebration!” ~ William L. White

26) Recovery is an ongoing process, for both the addict and his or her family. In recovery there is hope. And hope is a wonderful thing. ~ Dean Dauphinais

27) “Everyday men, women, and adolescents take their first steps on this journey. Dramatic changes do happen.” ~ Joe Herzanek

28) “When people see their behavior as inconsistent with their self-image or goals, their motivation to change can increase.” ~ Carrie Wilkens, PhD

29) “Even in the midst of devastation, something within us always points the way to freedom.” ~Sharon Salzberg

30) “In my experience, and in the experience of most people I have talked with, the family’s recovery often coincides with or precedes the recovery of the addicted individual.” ~ Beverly Conyers

31) Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny. ~ C.S. Lewis

32) “We must desperately desire recovery with the same passion with which we pursue drugs.” ~ Mary Cook

33) “In a moment of clarity, out of nowhere, I saw that when I believed my thoughts I suffered and when I questioned my thoughts I didn’t suffer, and I have come to see that this is true for every human being. ~ Bryon Katie

34) “You need to be bold enough and strong enough to let your loved one’s recovery unfold or not unfold as it is meant to, not as you want it to.” ~ Carole Bennett

35) With boundaries, it comes down to this, that you don’t support the illness, you support recovery.” ~ Christopher Kennedy Lawford

36) “By changing the way I interact with my drinker, I will help him come to the decision that entering treatment will improve his life.” ~ Robert Meyers, PhD

37) “Something exceptionally positive can come from our experiences. Your contribution to the growing momentum with this cause has great power. Perhaps you’ll reach someone before they have to know the glass monster room at all.” ~ Jody Lamb

38) “A compassionate approach leads to less addiction.” ~ Johann Hari

39) “When women sit in a circle a sacred space is created to work and create together, listen, learn and share with one another—to get support from one another.” ~ Shelley Richanbach

40) The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

41) “Where there is life there is hope.” ~ Ron Grover

42) “The truth is that almost two-thirds of Americans have friends or family members who have struggled with addiction.  ~ William Cope Moyers

43) Don’t let the past steal your present.” –Terri Guillemets

44)  “Nobody stays recovered unless the life they have created is more rewarding and satisfying than the one they left behind.” ~ Anne Fletcher

45) “Learn to listen, sit, contain, and just be with your children.” ~ Brad Reedy, PhD

46) “Sometimes you just got to give yourself what you wish someone else would give you.” – Dr. Phil McGraw

47)  “Recovery is not simple abstinence. It’s about healing the brain, remembering how to feel, learning how to make good decisions, becoming the kind of person who can engage in healthy relationships, cultivating the willingness to accept help from others, daring to be honest, and opening up to doing.” ~ Debra Jay

48) “It takes a lot of strength to ride the storm of addiction, but it’s worth it.” ~ Maggie Swann

49) “The best gift you can give, besides your unconditional love, is to be strong for them when they are present and stronger for yourself when they are not!” ~ David Cooke

50) “Baby steps are key–baby steps, and lots and lots of praise.”  ~ Erica Spiegelman

The Responsibility of Being Sober

When the late George Bernard Shaw quoted, “We are made wise not by the recollection of our past, but by the responsibility for our future,” perhaps he did not realize how important those words could be for someone recovering from drug addiction. Throughout the ages, regardless of time and place, society has set certain standards and expectations for its people is deemed necessary in order to uphold a functioning community and state. A normal, healthy adult is expected to have a paying job, pay their share of expenses, and carry out their fair share of duties. But there is so much more to consider when recovering from substance abuse.

Responsibility goes deeper than just how productive we are in society. It’s also about personal responsibility. The relationship we have with ourselves is the most important relationship since it is the root of everything we think, say, and do. How we perceive personal responsibility is key in the recovery process as well as re-entering everyday life after rehab. Personal responsibility is understanding and accepting we have a role in society to upkeep and taking care of our physical and psychological wellbeing is part of this umbrella. It also means not blaming others for our mishaps and knowing that our thoughts and attitude make all the difference.

What Does Being Responsible for My Thoughts and Attitude Look Like?

No one can escape responsibility. Many will push the boundaries for as long as possible: the teenager who wants the freedom of staying out late but not the responsibility of paying bills or the 40-year-old male or female still sleeping in the basement of their mother’s house waiting for breakfast to be served. We all progress and mature at different rates. A lot of times we have given in to fear-based thoughts and have taken on the role of the victim. We don’t have control over every thought that crosses our mind but we do have control over how we react to them. Giving too much attention to fear-based thoughts is like accepting an invitation to a pity-party. Many of these thoughts will just leave on their own when they are recognized as unproductive and fear-based, such as I am not good enough or I will never heal from this addiction. It’s crucial to not allow thoughts like these to resonate with our core being and it is our responsibility to replace them with positive thoughts that encourage our healing and personal growth.

We have more control over our personal wellbeing than we give ourselves credit for. If you are determined to be unhappy no one can change that for you. Paying your bills is your responsibility but so is your attitude and point of view, which ultimately determines the extent of your happiness and plays a key role in the healing process. Taking personal responsibility for how you perceive life and the attitude you have chosen will determine the speed and success of your recovery. After all, you’re fighting for freedom from the deathly grip of addiction. As the beloved Bob Dylan said, “A Hero is somebody who understands the responsibility that comes with his freedom,” and everyone is the hero of their own story.

 

 

The Truth About Willpower

Many people assume that a lack of willpower is what prevents a person from achieving the thing they set out to achieve. It is often said that someone who struggles with being overweight most certainly lacks willpower in controlling their eating habits and people who suffer from any type of addiction must simply “will” themselves to stop pursuing their drug of choice if they want to recover. Google defines willpower as “control exerted to do something or restrain impulses”. It seems that will power is looked at as some kind of superpower that some people have to control their life and those who do not are doomed to live a life being controlled by their impulses. Do you believe that some people are either born with this power and some are not? If everyone has this ability ingrained in the core of their being then can you really ever “lack” it?

Your Will Power is Limited if Not Used Properly

Recent research has shown that will power is like a muscle and gets fatigued after a while. And like a muscle, it will lose its stamina if not exercised properly. Saying no to a box of donuts the first time may be easier than the third or fourth time. Each time you have to make a choice to do something or not do it requires will power and quickly exhausts it. When you focus on the idea of whether or not you can “will” yourself to do something you quickly exhaust your mental ability to cope effectively with the situation at hand and will most likely take all the donuts or the extra shot of tequila which either leads you to believe you “lack” will power or someone else will mention it to you. So what can you do then?

According to Psychology Today, there are many ways you can strengthen your willpower, below are a few (Dr. Denise Cummins, June 21, 2013): 

  • Don’t keep yourself in a constant state of willpower depletion: Exercising self-control is a great way to use willpower but never giving yourself a break will surely deplete it. This may work fine for the occasional cookie but when it comes to drug abuse it’s important to find a healthy alternative to “giving yourself a break”.
  • Build good habits: Stress depletes will power. When stressed people tend to fall back on bad habits. Having good habits to resort to particularly in stressful times can not only strengthen willpower but also helps prevent relapses. Make a list of healthy alternatives to the not so healthy habits you’ve had in the past.
  • One step at a time: Whether it’s losing weight or recovering from a drug addiction healing takes time. Know your own limits and don’t be afraid to reach out for help.

Through counseling, you can also learn to harness the power of your will to reach deeper and understand your own personal struggle with addiction and where it stems from to change core beliefs. Understanding our root beliefs and expectations and identifying problematic patterns can help to change core beliefs. By changing core beliefs you are changing who you are and what you want and a lifestyle change becomes more effortless as opposed to constantly telling yourself what you should or should not do. For example, when you decide you want to recover from an addiction, it’ll be exhausting to consistently try to see if you can “will” yourself to refrain from using your drug of choice. It might work the first week but throughout time mental exhaustion will kick in and temptations will too. But keeping your “willpower muscle” strong and learning the root issue can make it easier for you to say no or choose to go another direction.

This is one of the many reasons therapy is so important during recovery and is offered in the best rehab centers. It’s important to know that you’re not alone in this process and there are qualified people in place to support you. Will power is in all of us. It becomes more of a superpower when you BELIEVE in its existence instead of thinking you lack it and keep it strong and healthy. A superpower cannot be taken away from the hero, it’s just a matter of how he or she uses it.

The Significance of Being Selfish in Recovery

Being called selfish is not usually considered a compliment. As humans, we have acclimated to the idea that we need to understand and adapt to our surroundings to survive. Our ancient ancestors knew that in order to provide for and sustain the well-being of their families they needed to take care of themselves first. Nowadays, the idea of being selfish is frowned upon in most societies but when it comes to recovering from a debilitating addiction, it could be the difference between life or death.

Recovery can be one of the hardest endeavors someone takes on and requires the kind of personal attention you may not be used to. The relationship you have with yourself is the main ground for the recovery process. Being selfish in recovery doesn’t mean the needs of others should not matter to you, it’s about self-care and knowing how and when to give and take in your personal life. Your job, relationships, and responsibilities can be strained when you go into recovery and creating healthy boundaries and prioritizing while you give yourself time to heal can immensely increase the quality of your personal well being. Giving too much of yourself at the expense of your inner peace can lead to feelings of resentment and frustration that, in the long run, could deter you from your recovery goals.

Your relationship with sobriety is vital to the recovery process. There is no sure-fire way to run down the road to recovery successfully and the stress of everyday responsibilities can be daunting as well as threatening to your sobriety. Knowing your triggers can help you create positive and useful coping mechanisms to reduce stress and anxiety. Sometimes it’s just important to take a step back and a deep breath to gain momentum and recognize when you need to give yourself the most attention.

Why is being selfish important in recovery?

Because putting your healing first is a top priority. You have dreams and aspirations and addictions prevent you from being the best version of yourself. You want to thrive not just survive and that requires extra personal attention. What about the others in my life, don’t their needs matter? Yes, but you decide the boundaries because your healing and recovery depend on you not them. Communicate your needs and those who truly care will understand that at this time it’s all about you. Learning to care for and love yourself in a way that heals you from an addiction is one of the greatest gifts you can give your loved ones. But you need to give it yourself first.

RECOVERY MONTH – 2017

Every September, the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) sponsors Recovery Month to increase awareness and understanding of mental and substance use disorders and celebrate the people who recover. The theme for Recovery Month 2017 is Join the Voices for Recovery: Strengthen Families and Communities.

The 2017 theme highlights the value of family and community support throughout recovery and invites individuals in recovery and their family members to share their personal stories and successes in order to encourage others.

We at Florida Center for Recovery (FCR) invite you to participate in the Recovery Month by sharing your recovery story with FCR.

Real stories are the powerful way for individuals who are seeking treatment and their loved ones, to learn about FCR’s comprehensive addiction treatment programs and the work done by the many doctors, nurses and the therapists involved. 

Please send your story to social@mycenterforrecovery.com for inclusion on our website and our social network.

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